HOW TO GET YOUR LIFE ON TRACK

Lost, Uncertain, those "Alright hold on, what am I doing?" moments. I am damn sure we are familiar with that, and if you aren't I bet you used one of these tips which I am going to share (Or of course, it can be personal, no remarks needed there).

It often comes to my ears from my close friends and family that what's your secret for leading a 'smooth' life? So to bless you all (jk) I don't have a secret. As many of you might know that I love books, Go ahead and call me a bookworm because I enjoy myself classified by that term. I believe a single book (of any genre) allows you to live multiple lives. Isn't that exciting! I read all kinds of genres from thriller to sci-fi, from romance to self-help which again has its own tributaries. 

Fun fact: I learn. Now many of you would be thinking "Of course don't be stupid Vaanya, Everyone knows that", but do you? Call me weird but I create descriptive annotations for genres like Sci-fi, Self-help, and majorly Finance. One thing I wasn't able to learn was about life in general. 

Human beings go through so many experiences- we feel, we see, we touch (etc-) and therefore we store. 

There are tons of books and even youtube videos about how to fill those voids in your life and blah blah blah. Sure, read those books and see those videos, go do whatever you want but remember life is the greatest teacher of all. Just like we have textbooks in schools from which we study, I believe acceptance and the mindset is the 'textbook'. So the tricks which helped me all through my highs and lows are straightforward but a lot of self-discipline is needed. Not to forget consistency is the key to everything to want to achieve. 

1. PRIORITIZE YOUR TIME

This is a game-changer. Personally, I never used to value my time and where I am spending it. I always felt that I am young and this is the time to enjoy my youth but trust me, get this idea out of your mind. There is a difference between enjoying your youth and destroying your future. So, it is essential to have a timetable or a simple to-do list (Like I have one for myself). This way you can be productive and actually get a lot of things done. We all love appreciation, don't we? It's psychology. By completing a given task you will feel more relaxed and motivated (an easy way to increase your dopamine). But remember to make a manageable timetable or a to-list, then it will backfire. Small steps lead to big achievements. 

2. YOUR COMPANY BUILDS YOUR COMPANY

The people you surround yourself with determine what kind of human being you are becoming and will ultimately become. I learned this lesson a long time ago that not everybody is your friend, learn to make and maintain strict boundaries. As I realized this fact, I cut off tons and tons of people and suddenly life's been treating me well. 

Remember when to walk away, and know your self-worth. If you feel like you are treated like shiz just walk away. It's not always that easy though. It's hard to destroy relationships that were built over a long time and it's even harder to take a step back when you are attached. Read this- Stop thinking about how others would feel and start thinking about yourself. They don't pay your bills, you don't feel like yourself around them, and they aren't contributing to your success, So what's the point of being present there. 

There are more than 8 billion people on this planet who will treat you better, who are willing to see you level up, and willing to listen to and understand you. Do not destroy yourself by staying there for someone who treats you like their second option, makes you crave attention, and have already backstabbed you many times. It's better to be alone.

                                         (*Entry of Maddy Perez*- Out of Sight, Out of Mind) 

3. THE "COOL"

Be okay with yourself, Be comfortable with the vessel in which your sweet soul resides (wow that was quite poetic-) You do not need validation from anyone to make you feel beautiful/handsome. You do not need to hide your face in public or in photos to seem 'cool' just because you are afraid of being judged because you will be judged throughout your life. I know that it feels a lot to take in but that is the truth. So stop pushing yourself to fit in society, no one cares for you. Really! No one cares about your feelings and everyone's selfish. 

It takes time for one to truly adapt in 'themselves' but once you do, It would truly feel like the most beautiful feeling you could ever feel. I built my self-confidence by doing everything I was afraid of. Like most of you, I was also afraid of being judged. I would let people walk all over me just to fit in and obey whatever society wanted me to do. But gradually my eyes opened, and instead of doing the 'safe' things that would keep me out of trouble like staying quiet, not questioning anything etc, I became the opposite. By making a list of things that 'I' wanted to do like talk to new people, share my feelings, learn something new which is out of textbooks, Raise my hand in class to answer, and publicly share my feelings and my opinions (which I am doing now by writing this blog).

You only live once. As I stated before that nobody cares and minds whatever you are doing and want to do. So do your own thing even if it doesn't have any logic behind it but if doing something makes sense to you, then that's more than enough. 

4. DON'T WASTE YOUR ENERGY

Our energy is always consumed by the world whether it's physical, mental, or merely your vibrations. It's a never-ending loop. The best part to be alive is that we can control what is within our reach. Be cautious on how and with who you share your energy on and about. That's the reason we feel exhausted and drained out after coming from school, work, etc. It can even be the small details such as what you eat and spend time with. 

Life will keep giving you reality checks so it is better to be aware of our 'spending'. That is why we are encouraged to build good habits and 'take a break' from social media. I was a huge procrastinator and I would spend hours and hours on social media feeling insecure and totally miserable. Gradually, I started paying attention to all the useless things and I fell deeper into the hole miserably. This way I understood how important it is to keep a check on where your attention and energy go. I feel this was the hardest challenge for me to tackle and it took me years to master it. It's not like my life is perfect, everyone falls down and has bad days. Thus, So do I. 

Always remember that pushing yourself to be perfect won't get you anywhere. Make mistakes in fact make a lot of mistakes. Remember it is okay to cry, share lame memes and laugh through challenges and difficulties because that is what life is about. There is no such term as happiness, Honestly, it's all metaphorical. We live to suffer, learn and appreciate the good days. 

                

                             In the end, all I can do is guide you which I will do with all my heart.

                                                        Ultimately you hold the power, use it wisely 

                                                                                                            -Vaanya Badhwar